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In today's world, it would be the most ignorant, chauvinistic and condescending thing for anybody to say that men should always earn more than the women they are in relationships with, be it as their girlfriends, concubines or wives.
With women taking more active roles as professionals in many fields of endeavour and pulling their weights while working at it, it is high time we Africans redefined the template that dictates what should be expected from either men or women in whatever shade of intimacies they engage themselves in.
If a woman who earns more than a man finds it befitting to accept the overtures of a man who is not as financially endowed as she is, then she shouldn't be seen to be desperate for affection. And on the other hand, the man who can accept a woman picking up the bills at every instance without feeling castrated shouldn't be seen as a gold digger.
The gender equality debate and women's rights movement are issues that have come to stay, forever! So persons who still insist on viewing intimate relationships as the man providing-woman receiving equation it had always been all through the ages need to put on new thinking caps.
Especially those ladies who think it makes them less of a woman to love men whose networths can be comfortably tucked into the side of their designer Gucci and Prada bags!
This is nice..to me,its no crime paying d bills but then,its not right too to an extent cos some men take advantage of it.. but some men feel uncomfortable seeing a woman pay their bills..it all depends on what d two parties agree on.
ReplyDeleteIts really challenging especially in cultures like ours when men are expected to pay for everything.
ReplyDeleteThey both need to have an honest and open discussion and sort out their financial commitments and standards.
I find it funny when my sisters say we want gender equality yet still expect men to pay for everything, its one or the other, you either bring your own to the plate or you keep taking and be treated like a possesion.
I am not advocating a man be dependent on her because she is richer, I don't advocate anyone totally depending on anyone man or woman.
I find it funny when someone invites a lady for a date she packs up her friends and expects he pays, we have very funny practices here, when I go out with friends we split the bill, everyone looks at what he/ she had and pays their share.
He will do well do remove ego and comments like : "is it because you earn more than me"?
She will also do well to step back a little, if before you only shop at designer stores you may have to review your taste so he doesn't go looking like a scrub when you go shopping.
I am all for house husbands if the man is hardworking enough!
ReplyDeleteNice talk, some women in our society wont think is right for them to give their men some level of respect because they re richer. This is common here,some ladies would want to put their men under foot and nag @ them before their friends. this is what our men dont like, but in away some men likes it. I wish men and women in our society can wakeup, reason together,agree and build together
ReplyDeleteNice talk, some women in our society wont think is right for them to give their men some level of respect because they re richer. This is common here,some ladies would want to put their men under foot and nag @ them before their friends. this is what our men dont like, but in away some men likes it. I wish men and women in our society can wakeup, reason together,agree and build together
ReplyDeleteNice talk, some women in our society wont think is right for them to give their men some level of respect because they re richer. This is common here,some ladies would want to put their men under foot and nag @ them before their friends. this is what our men dont like, but in away some men likes it. I wish men and women in our society can wakeup, reason together,agree and build together
ReplyDeleteNice talk, some women in our society wont think is right for them to give their men some level of respect because they re richer. This is common here,some ladies would want to put their men under foot and nag @ them before their friends. this is what our men dont like, but in away some men likes it. I wish men and women in our society can wakeup, reason together,agree and build together
ReplyDeleteNice talk, some women in our society wont think is right for them to give their men some level of respect because they re richer. This is common here,some ladies would want to put their men under foot and nag @ them before their friends. this is what our men dont like, but in away some men likes it. I wish men and women in our society can wakeup, reason together,agree and build together
ReplyDeleteNice talk, some women in our society wont think is right for them to give their men some level of respect because they re richer. This is common here,some ladies would want to put their men under foot and nag @ them before their friends. this is what our men dont like, but in away some men likes it. I wish men and women in our society can wakeup, reason together,agree and build together
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