With the world becoming more and more if of a global village it is quite understandable and unfortunate that a major victim of this phenomenon is relationship.
On one front, people are compelled by the search for a greener pasture or adventure to separate from their loved ones to another geographical area to meet that need on the other hand, technology has helped bridge the vacuum that such separations used to create as people in long distance relationships can keep in touch through phones, e-mails and even video conferencing.
but truthfully, can we say that relationships, especially those defined in the context of marriage, betrothal or exclusivity between a couple, thrive well in a virtual state caused by distance?
My experience, and a review of responses from a cross section of individuals who have witnessed the resultant effects of such separation, up ports the notion that there is more harm than good that comes out from distant selection ship.
tell me this, how does a lover cope when he/she wakes up in the middle of a rainy night, all cold and in need of a warm body to hug when the other party in the love equation is seven oceans away? How does one handle the sadness that greets a person who runs home after victorious outing in an endeavor as he/she opens the door to his/her lonely house and there is no on to smile with and show the trophy won?
How does a person cope when there is the deep urge for a physical shoulder to cry on when the whole world seems not to care about the travails he/she is going through trying to stay alive and sane?
How does a person in a committed relationship ignore a proposition from someone close who is doing everything to remind you of what you are missing and pretending as if it didn't matter when you are faced with an option of a sting a little of the 'forbidden fruit', even if for a little while till all becomes 'normal' again?
Someone tell me, please.....
On one front, people are compelled by the search for a greener pasture or adventure to separate from their loved ones to another geographical area to meet that need on the other hand, technology has helped bridge the vacuum that such separations used to create as people in long distance relationships can keep in touch through phones, e-mails and even video conferencing.
but truthfully, can we say that relationships, especially those defined in the context of marriage, betrothal or exclusivity between a couple, thrive well in a virtual state caused by distance?
My experience, and a review of responses from a cross section of individuals who have witnessed the resultant effects of such separation, up ports the notion that there is more harm than good that comes out from distant selection ship.
tell me this, how does a lover cope when he/she wakes up in the middle of a rainy night, all cold and in need of a warm body to hug when the other party in the love equation is seven oceans away? How does one handle the sadness that greets a person who runs home after victorious outing in an endeavor as he/she opens the door to his/her lonely house and there is no on to smile with and show the trophy won?
How does a person cope when there is the deep urge for a physical shoulder to cry on when the whole world seems not to care about the travails he/she is going through trying to stay alive and sane?
How does a person in a committed relationship ignore a proposition from someone close who is doing everything to remind you of what you are missing and pretending as if it didn't matter when you are faced with an option of a sting a little of the 'forbidden fruit', even if for a little while till all becomes 'normal' again?
Someone tell me, please.....
Hmmmmmm*deep breath*
ReplyDeletePersonally, I don't subscribe to long distance relationship. But again, the partner nd relationship must really be worth it for d other partner to relocate nd bond.
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